You finally managed to plan that perfect proposal and everything went smoothly or maybe not but what matters is that she said yes! You are now her “fiancé”… no longer her boyfriend. Sounds a bit unreal right? The feeling that you are now committed and engaged might take a while for some people to completely sink in and that’s absolutely fine. It’s a brand-new phase in your life!
You proposed and she said yes, what now? All the hard work and planning is over, right? NO!!
Now that you are engaged, welcome to the next level – planning the wedding! Yes, society norms say that women love planning their wedding and have dreamed of it since they were a kid. But she will definitely need you to help out, take decisions and plan things. Planning a wedding alone can be hard. So, get your thinking hat and a book and pen, and make a note of things. We have all listed all the details and things you need to know, now that she said yes!
Once the initial excitement of the proposal has come down and you have shared the wonderful news with your friends and family, then start with some immediate planning.
• Set a date: The first thing that probably any couple does before starting on planning a wedding is set a date. This one decision will determine everything that follows.
• Location: Figure out where you want to hold the wedding. We don’t mean the specifics of the venue, but more like a geographical area. Let’s say both of you have moved to the city from your hometown then where do you want to have the wedding? Your or her hometown or maybe in the city itself and make your family come down? You can also choose to have a destination wedding. So, discuss this together and come to a decision. The sooner, the better.
• Type of wedding: She has always been the romantic, formal wedding kind and you may be the informal, just close friends and family kind? Big or small? You need to decide on this now before you get into the details of planning the wedding.
• Finances: We all know how expensive even a simple wedding can be. Traditionally the bride’s parents paid for the wedding and the groom’s parents paid for the reception. But today, the couple’s prefer to pay for their own weddings. Think about how you are going to go about this and set a budget so that you can plan your wedding accordingly.
Now that you have set a date, planned the finances, and narrowed down on the venue, let’s get into the details of planning the wedding!
• The next most important thing apart from the wedding is the food and cake. Start tasting cake samples and food from different caterers and pick the one you like best.
• Pick out your wedding bands – make sure you choose something that you both love.
• Pick your best man
• Get the guest list ready. This one might take a while and you two might have to sit down together for this so that you don’t miss out on anyone.
• The wedding dance. If you both like a specific genre of music then great problem solved. But if not then narrowing down on the DJ or band might take a while.
• Go shopping with your best man for your tux.
Planning a wedding can be stressful and tiring for her. She would be looking at every detail till the end moment. But there are some things that you can take care of to take some load off her and also surprise her.
• Plan the honeymoon. Narrow down on a place you both would love, plan the whole thing and do the bookings. A perfect way to surprise her!
• Buy a wedding gift for her. Traditionally most men prefer to gift their wives fine jewelry. Pick something she would love to wear every day.
• Make sure you coordinate and communicate with your best man for wedding day logistics and attire apart from the bachelor party.
• Get a gift for your parents.
• Schedule a haircut a few days before the wedding. She would really appreciate this!
Being engaged is a surreal feeling in itself but now that you have leaped, it's best to be prepared for what’s coming next. These are just some things you should be aware of now that she has said yes. We hope you find this helpful and manage to surprise your fiancé with all this knowledge!
